The Warrior, the King, and the Ultimate Alpha: Why Theology is a Man’s Greatest Weapon

What does it mean to be a man in a world that glorifies dominance, wealth, and superficial success? For many young men, the answer is shaped by culture, not Christ. Growing up, especially in high school and early adulthood, there’s this constant pressure to prove yourself. Society tells you that being 'cool' means sleeping with a lot of women, flaunting material success, or outshining others in superficial ways. It’s a culture that equates strength with dominance, not discipline.

But here’s the truth: the 'coolest' thing a man can do is the exact opposite of what the world says. It’s not about chasing attention or validation—it’s about standing firm in true Christian values. The Bible teaches that real strength comes from courage, self-control, and purpose. And while I’m not saying men shouldn’t desire a loving wife (the Song of Solomon is a must-read for any man who wants to understand godly love), it’s about knowing your worth and embracing values that set you apart

Here’s the truth: True masculinity isn’t about flexing power or chasing validation, it’s about embracing the strength found in theology, self-control, and a heart aligned with God. The stories of David, Solomon, and Jesus show us that real strength is rooted in humility, courage, and a relentless pursuit of God’s purpose. Theology isn’t just an abstract concept; it’s a man’s greatest weapon in a world that constantly tries to redefine what it means to be strong.

The problem today is that many Christian men who young men look up to don’t portray the kind of courage and strength that naturally draws others in. I get it—when half the guys in church look like they just walked out of a Hallmark Christmas movie, and the other half are quoting Bible verses while living like they’ve never opened one, it’s hard to see Christianity as a path to strength. There’s a reason someone like Andrew Tate struck a chord with so many young men, even though I disagree with him in many ways. His persona speaks to something deeply ingrained in men: a desire for courage, strength, and significance.

But here’s the difference: true strength doesn’t come from arrogance or selfish ambition. It comes from understanding who you are in Christ. It comes from diving deep into theology and realizing that the greatest leaders in history, men like David, Solomon, and, ultimately, Jesus! They were powerful not because they flexed their muscles or flaunted wealth, but because they embodied wisdom, humility, and God’s purpose.

And this is where theology comes in. A lot of men dismiss it as something passive or irrelevant, but in reality, understanding God’s word is one of the most powerful advantages a man can have. Look at King David, he wasn’t the strongest, the richest, or the most powerful when God chose him. He was just a shepherd boy, but his heart for God made him a warrior, a leader, and a king. And yet, even he had flaws that serve as warnings for us today.

The Strength in Failure: What King David Can Teach Us About True Masculinity

David’s story is one of immense strength, but also profound failure and therein lies a powerful lesson for us as men. It’s no coincidence that God chose men like David and allowed their lives to unfold the way they did. Their stories aren’t just historical accounts; they’re masterclasses in biblical masculinity. They show us the power God gives to those who truly love Him, as well as the pitfalls to avoid. As men, we’re called to be growth-oriented, always striving to become better versions of ourselves. And that’s exactly what these stories invite us to do.

I remember when I first read about David and Bathsheba, I thought it was all about David finally “arriving.” A shepherd boy, humble and unnoticed, who becomes a powerful king and is able to get the girl he wanted. It seemed like a reward for his rise to power. But after deeper study, I realized that David already had multiple wives and was already deeply blessed by God in many ways. God even allowed David to have these wives, though it wasn’t His ideal. That made David’s act with Bathsheba not just a lapse in judgment but a blatant act of disobedience, a failure to honor God’s will.

This is where we, as men, need to learn from David's mistake. His sin with Bathsheba wasn’t just about taking something for his own gain, t was about his pride, his lack of discipline, and his failure to respect the boundaries God had set. David had already been blessed abundantly, and yet he still sought more, not in God’s will, but in his own selfish desires. This shows us that even the greatest men of the Bible weren’t perfect. And yet, despite his failure, God used David’s situation for good, continuing to bless him and his line. David’s son, Solomon, was still chosen to rule, and even after all of David’s flaws, his legacy remained a powerful one.

David’s story highlights something incredibly important: Real strength as men isn’t about achieving a position of power or wealth. It’s about exercising self-control, honoring God in our decisions, and embracing the responsibility that comes with our blessings. The world might say strength comes from taking what you want when you can, but true godly strength comes from recognizing the limits God has set for us and living within those boundaries.

Here’s the thing: We can’t read David’s story and think, 'Well, David had multiple wives and still was a man after God’s own heart, so I can do whatever I want.' That’s missing the point entirely. God isn’t giving us permission to follow in David’s mistakes; He’s giving us a blueprint to be even better. David’s life is a reminder that even the greatest men stumble, but it’s how we respond to those failures that defines us. It’s about learning from his mistakes and using those lessons to our advantage.

As men, we’re called to take these stories and apply them to our lives. We’re called to be warriors like David, but also to guard our hearts and stay rooted in God’s Word. We’re called to lead with courage and humility, to pursue God’s purpose with everything we have, and to learn from both the triumphs and failures of those who came before us. This is what it means to embrace biblical masculinity, not perfection, but a relentless pursuit of growth and godliness.

The Balance of Strength and Softness (with Eternal Perspective)

Now, let me be clear: Embracing biblical masculinity doesn’t mean being hard, unfeeling, or devoid of a soft side. In fact, Jesus, the ultimate example of strength was both powerful and compassionate. He overturned tables in the temple with righteous anger, yet He also wept with those who were grieving. He stood firm in truth, yet He showed incredible tenderness to the broken and the lost. This is the balance we’re called to embody as men: strength with humility, courage with compassion, and conviction with grace.

In today’s environment, being a man of God with values like waiting until marriage to make love, diving deep into Scripture, and studying apologetics to gain a better perspective on how to serve both now and eternally gives you an advantage that most men simply won’t have. It’s about more than just showing up to church on Sundays, plenty of men do that without ever digging deeper into their faith or their eternal future. But when you go beyond the surface, when you commit to living out your faith with intentionality and discipline, you stand out in a way that’s rare and deeply attractive.

Think about it: A man who knows his worth in Christ, who prioritizes purity, who studies God’s Word not just to check a box but to truly understand and live it—that’s a man who stands out. That’s a man who inspires respect and admiration, not just from other men but from women as well. Women are drawn to men who lead with purpose, who have a vision for their lives, and who are grounded in something greater than themselves. When you live out these values, you’re not just setting yourself apart, you’re showing the world what it means to be a man of God.

And here’s the most important part: You’ll also stand out to God. Scripture promises that those who are meek and honor Him will inherit the Kingdom. As Jesus said in Matthew 5:5, 'Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.' This isn’t just a future promise; it’s a present reality. When you live a life of humility, integrity, and faithfulness, you’re storing up treasures in heaven and positioning yourself to receive God’s blessings both now and for eternity.

While many men are focused on temporary gains—money, status, or fleeting pleasures, you’re investing in something that lasts. You’re building a legacy that goes beyond this life. That kind of intentionality and discipline doesn’t just make you stand out; it positions you to lead, to serve, and to impact the world in ways that most men never will. And ultimately, it aligns you with God’s promises, ensuring that your life and your legacy will have eternal significance.

Deepening the Connection to Modern Masculinity (with Your Perspective)

Let’s be honest: There’s a reason why figures like Andrew Tate have gained such a massive following among young men. His message of power, control, and dominance speaks to something deeply ingrained in the male psyche—a desire for significance, strength, and purpose. But here’s the problem: Tate’s version of masculinity is a counterfeit. It’s built on pride, exploitation, and emptiness. It promises fulfillment but delivers only brokenness.

Nowhere is this more evident than in his view of women. Tate’s perspective reduces women to objects, tools for personal gain or status. But this couldn’t be further from the truth of God’s design. Women and children are among God’s greatest gifts to men. They are not trophies to be won or possessions to be controlled; they are partners, blessings, and reflections of God’s love. The very fact that God allows us to experience the love of a wife, and the joy of children is a glimpse of His own love for us. It’s a sacred gift that helps us understand the depth of His love for the Church.

The Bible describes marriage as a picture of Christ’s relationship with the Church (Ephesians 5:25-33). A man’s love for his wife is meant to mirror Christ’s sacrificial, unconditional love. This isn’t just a nice idea, it’s a calling, a responsibility, and a privilege. When we view women through this lens, we see them not as objects to be dominated but as partners to be cherished, honored, and loved. The truth is men today are starving for a vision of masculinity that’s both powerful and purposeful. They want to know that their lives matter, that they can make a difference, and that they can be strong without losing their humanity. And this is exactly what biblical masculinity offers. It’s not about dominating others; it’s about leading with integrity, serving with humility, and standing firm in God’s truth.

Think about it: The world tells men that strength is about flexing your muscles, flaunting your wealth, or controlling others. But the Bible tells us that true strength is about self-control, courage, and a heart aligned with God. It’s about being a warrior who fights for what’s right, a king who leads with wisdom, and a servant who puts others first. This is the kind of masculinity that changes lives—not just your own, but the lives of everyone around you.

And here’s the kicker: Biblical masculinity isn’t just a better alternative to the world’s broken model—it’s the ultimate path to fulfillment. When you live out your God-given purpose, you don’t just feel strong; you feel alive. You don’t just chase success; you create a legacy. And you don’t just gain the respect of others; you earn the approval of God. So, men, the choice is clear. You can follow the world’s empty promises, or you can embrace the strength, purpose, and fulfillment that comes from living as a man of God. The world needs men who are willing to rise above the noise, to lead with courage, and to show what true masculinity looks like. Will you be one of them?

Living Out Faith in Every Area of Life

For me, living out biblical masculinity isn’t just about personal growth or relationships—it’s about integrating my faith into every area of my life, including my work and business. This is why I started NicholasTreyJ Enterprises, a faith-based personal investment company. Every venture I create is rooted in faithful values and guided by an eternal perspective. It’s my way of ensuring that everything God blesses me with is used to serve Him and further His Kingdom.

It’s also why I jokingly but quite literally call myself the 'Chief Servant Officer' of my company. Leadership, in my view, isn’t about lording authority over others; it’s about serving them. Jesus Himself said, 'Whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant' (Matthew 20:26). This mindset shapes how I lead, how I make decisions, and how I interact with everyone I work with. It’s a constant reminder that true leadership is about humility, integrity, and putting others first.

It’s also why I’m pursuing my MBA at Grace Christian University. I want to deepen my understanding of how to integrate Christian values into business, not just as a side note but as the core of everything I do. I’ve had people ask me why I always make my faith and Christianity such a central part of my business and life. The answer is simple: I truly realize the value of living for Christ, and I believe it’s my calling to give all of myself to Him. I love Jesus with all of my being, and that’s just how it’s going to be.

This commitment to my faith has also led me to dive deeper into theology, apologetics, and studying the Bible in a way I never have before. And let me tell you—it’s been eye-opening. It’s helped me put things into perspective and see life through an eternal lens. When you understand the bigger picture, the stresses of life don’t disappear, but they become easier to manage. You start to see challenges as opportunities to grow, and you realize that every responsibility you carry is part of God’s plan for your life.

Now, don’t get me wrong: Being a man of God isn’t easy. It’s a lot of responsibility. There are days when the weight of it feels overwhelming. But here’s the beauty of it: Faith gives you the strength to keep going. It reminds you that you’re not alone, that God is with you every step of the way, and that every effort you make for His Kingdom has eternal significance. As Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 15:58, 'Therefore, my dear brothers and sisters, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.

This is the kind of intentionality and commitment that sets men apart. It’s not about being perfect or having all the answers; it’s about being willing to live out your faith in every area of your life, even when it’s not popular or easy. It’s about showing the world that following Christ isn’t a limitation, it’s the ultimate advantage!

My Call to Action for Men!

So, men, here’s the challenge: Will you settle for the world’s broken definition of masculinity, or will you rise to the standard God has set for you? Will you chase temporary gains, or will you invest in a legacy that lasts for eternity? The choice is yours but let me tell you this: There’s no greater adventure, no deeper fulfillment, and no higher calling than living as a man of God.

Start by diving into God’s Word. Study theology and apologetics not just to gain knowledge, but to transform your life. Embrace the responsibility of leadership, not as a means to control others, but as an opportunity to serve them. And above all, keep your heart aligned with God’s purpose. Let your life be a reflection of His love, His strength, and His grace.

Remember, being a man of God isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being faithful. It’s about standing firm in your convictions, even when it’s hard. It’s about leading with humility, loving with courage, and living with an eternal perspective. And it’s about showing the world that true strength doesn’t come from dominance or pride; it comes from a heart that’s fully surrendered to Christ.

So, what are you waiting for? The world needs men who are willing to rise above the noise, to lead with integrity, and to show what true masculinity looks like. Will you be one of them? Will you take up the mantle of biblical masculinity and live a life that honors God? The journey won’t always be easy, but I promise you this: It will be worth it. Because when you live for Christ, you’re not just building a life—you’re building a legacy that will last for eternity.